I found this lovely article today.. this one is particularly for girls but I believe it applies equally for guys too! So, I’ve edited it so that both can take a lesson from it!
If you really love someone, don’t give them yourself – give them Jannah!
“For every girl/guy that says “I know its haram, but I love him/her” , think about this:
If the person you loved suddenly died tomorrow, would you be comfortable with your relationship being the last thing that they are judged on ?
If you allow them to get punished because of your love, then it is not truly love at all.
Love is selfless, love is caring, love is having mercy for each other . When you love someone you want the best for them.
The problem is that when you are in a haram relationship your love is not what is best for that person. This life is transient and will end, and your temporary love will end in hate.
Know that no matter how much a person loves you in this dunya , if it is through a haram relationship, then they will hate you 1000X more than that in the hereafter.
They will HATE you, they will blame you, and they will beg for you to be thrown into the fire instead of them. ”
I know this sounds harsh, but you must know – nothing will benefit you in this world if it is not for Allah (swt) . Not your money, not your looks, and not your love.
Only money you spend for the sake of Allah (swt) will count in the end. The only good deeds your looks can get you are the deeds you receive for covering yourself up with modesty. & Only one love can save you – and shade you on the day where there is no shade. That is love for the sake of Allah (swt) .
Whether you are married and living with your husband, or you are in a haram relationship, love that is not for the sake of Allah (swt) will never benefit you.
Love that traps you, love that distracts you from your purpose, and love that leads you away from your Lord is destruction.
So if you are in a relationship where your love is so strong, then turn it into the best kind of love. The love that never fades away. The love that saves you forever.
If you really love someone, but you’re in a haram relationship, then have mercy on them. Do them a favor and make it easy for them to walk away from you .
If you really love someone, don’t give them yourself – give them Jennah !
If they comeback to you in a halal way, then make yourself a promise that the love that bonds you is fulfilled through your strive to get to jennah together.
Love each other – and love each other for the sake of Allah (swt) .
Find the person whose hand you can hold today, and whose hand you can hold as you walk through the gates of jennah .
That person will be the greatest gift to you, because they will lead you to a perfect end.
Because no life is perfect. No man is perfect. No woman is perfect. & No love is perfect.
Only Allah (swt) is perfect, and the only way you can reach perfection is through him.
– Sr. Aber Kawas
Source: Feesabilillah Sisters Club